So, you too have had lemons thrown in your day... Before the lemonade you must first squeeze the lemon and it is sour!!!
Just before a break through there is a breakdown. Think about that.
The problem is that we are creatures of habits. When the tough gets going we seem to get stopped out of the blessings.
It is a pattern in all areas of your life. Some areas are more sensitive then others: relationships, finances, work or school.
The best thing to do is work through the break down so that you can rise up and overcome your obstacle.
We have to squeeze the lemon: there is pain, discomfort in being squeezed...
Next, we have to add water and sugar: now the perfect drink... The blessing of your work.
Now go apply this to where you are.
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Here is the ultimate lesson. It is an ultimate sacrifice!!!
If you haven't figured it out yet, my faith is everything of who I am. When I thought of this I just couldn't let go.
God sent his only son to die on the cross. No one, not you or I could have taken Christ's place. It was his cross to bear.
This is my cross. It is heavy and it is mine. People can come along side you as you carry the cross. Christ had his friends and support, you have yours and I have mine, but in the end the only one who can bear your cross is you.
I have friends that have difficulties in their lives. I cannot take the obstacles and struggles away from them. I can come along side, I can give help, and I can even carry the burden for a little while, but it comes times one they can bear their own cross.
Each of us has our struggles. The pain is real and the anger, frustration and the cry of your heart is real.
The gift and peace comes in knowing that you are not alone and through all of it Christ is with you.
Hope, faith & love are the keys.
I have always said that you should not pray for patience. Only pray for patience if you want tests for patience. So what should you pray for. Ask Solomon. You should pray for wisdom. Wisdom to know what to do, who to lean on, where to go. Wisdom is the answer. If you ask, God will give. So wisdom and clarity are my usual prayer requests. Nice right.
OK, so what do I do with the anger, frustration, and hurt. I begged for it to go away for that I would have clarity. You cannot make wise decisions without clarity and you cannot have clarity if you are always angry, mean, mad, and moody.
Having those feelings are not wrong. They are part of life. It is what you do with those feelings and how you handle them that makes a difference. It all comes down to choices. You are ultimately responsible for your own actions.
The biggest key to understanding if you made a mistake and are learning from it comes in repenting. Did you feel remorse? Are you sorry for what you did? Have you apologized to the right people?
Making mistakes is human. How we handle our mistakes is our character. Own up to your responsibility. Be a man of integrity, honesty, and self respect.
Do What's Right - Be Your Best - with God's help!!!!
When life throws you a LEMON, make some lemonade...
Wow, that is really hard to do sometimes isn't it!!!
Here is a profound lesson I have learned this week. I am sure I will have more to come because learning to walk by faith iss hard.
Walk by faith, hmmm, trusting God when you cant see where you are going or when someone has thrown blinders on you. Yes, walking by faith... People who are driven by faith know what it takes: Asking just for wisdom and clarity!!!
My first pearl of wisdom:
We are all alone in this together, together we are each alone.
I said that at my father's funeral when I realized how differently each of my children mourned the loss of their grandfather.
Here we were all together but alone each one of us processes through life's ups and down differently.
Here is the lesson I learned from Opa, my father. Daddy told us to mourn but one when he was gone and then go on and honor God every day.. He knew his time here on earth was short and he was still responsible for preparing us for what was to come. Reflecting on his first year away from us I have felt like I was failing becaasue I did not know how to do that every day. Of course, the truth is it is in our daily living that we honor God.
As a family we mourned for more than one day. We celebrated his life and enjoyed recounting the many memories of friends and family.
Now I too have something to mourn even if it isn't a person. Yes, I have a major change in my life. 27 years of being married and my life is turned upside down. My husband wants a divorce. Not going into the details of the situation, life has thrown me a lemon and now I am supposed to make lemonade.
The best advice everyone gave my mother as a new widow is to not make any drastic changes your first year alone. So, in my mourning the loss of a family, I too wont make drastic changes in the first year.
Know that God is in control, have peace, and beg for clarity and wisdom...
I will explain that in my next pearl of wisdom....
Blessings to each of you,
Vilma - Do What's Right - Be Your Best - with God's help.
I was reflecting this morning about life and its journey. It is amazing while we are young that there are so many dreams in our hearts of the many jobs we might like to have or places we would like to travel. I know officially have done my job of getting my children through high school, but the hard part comes in encouraging each one to find his place in this world.
Find what you like to do because you will never work a day in your life. Well, that is easier said than done. I was fortunate enough that I did do what I loved. I LOVED being a mom. And though that does not stop for me I will always be a mom but my role is different now and all of a sudden I am in the same shoes as my children looking for a new identity to impact and influence my world.
As a parent all these years it is amazing how much I am like my mother. I enjoyed and encouraging my children and with each phase I understand my mom better. It is amazing how smart are parents are when we grow up, :).
So back to my original thought: my children are looking for their identity; I am looking for my identity now that I am no longer a mom of children in a home. And then it hit me, my mom was also searching for her new identity. Recently widowed, my mom is in search of who she is without my dad here on earth. Strange, yes.
We walk this earth in search of who we are and the search is continuous. It is in the journey that we must find peace and the ability to influence others and more importantly ourselves. That is not to say that we do not have struggles and obstacles along the way, we do, but it is through life that we find our purpose.
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My new favorite person is Brendon Burchard. He is the author of the book, "The Charge", www.thecharge.com. It is free if you just pay for shipping. He offers three videos worth watching!!! I appreciate being challenged and then having a practical way to apply what I have learned. I copied his PDF of the 6 questions we need to ask ourselves every day. He challenged us to make videos to share with you all on impacting others and making a difference.
I have decided to begin with a video on just being ORDINARY. I will share the path on finding ways to be excellent at being just Ordinary. Watch the video below that was inspired by my sister Viv Beck and Brendon Burchard, perhaps this will somehow impact and inspire you.
It was in 2005 and I just read "The Path" by Laurie Beth Jones, and I have defined my mission by going through her book. I did not do this alone, I was mentoring women on a weekly teleconference and we each spent several weeks defining our personal missions. Here is my joy!!! I still like that purpose and now I have found a vehicle with which to pursue it. Here it is. My mission is to help others discover, empower, master becoming the best you be through honesty, integrity, and commitment in all I do.
One of the leaders in ViSalus, the #1 weight loss platform, said it best. Johnna Parr said, "It is best to first start with yourself and do not let yourself down." So with that, I am sharing that I want to discover and empower and master myself so that I can make a difference in others.
I begin with defining who I am. This was inspired because I stepped out of my comfort zone and joined a Toast Master Group so that I can gain confidence and competence in my speaking and communications. The video link below is my first presentation: an introduction of who I am... :)
So everything we do in life comes down to a decision!!! There is a fork in the road do you turn left or right? It doesn't matter except that you should respond rather than react. Reaction leads to frustration and conflict while when you respond you have had an opportunity to overcome obstacles that lay ahead.
My fork in the road? Well ViSalus had a great Vitality weekend. Do it or don't do it. A 19 year old young man said, "Well why wouldn't I. I have always been into fitness (I'm thinking your only 19 and he is smiling and happy) and it cuts fat, builds muscle, and it works. Yeah sure I am doing this!" Life is easy. When you make the decision to do it, go forward with a joy in your step and enjoy.
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My fork in the road. To have or not to have a challenge party... Really? Just go do it...
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This strategy can be used in every situation that you may come across.
It is a habit we make to become better aware of what we do and how we can improve.
Have you faced the frustrations of trying to accomplish one of your goals and you were not able to find the results.
Use the “A Plus”.
How good has your communication been with those most important to you?
The struggle of life can be more than we would like to manage at any one time. Here are 3 basic steps to helping find renewed success in what you do.
“A Plus” Strategy
Awareness & Acknowledgement:
We may know where we want to go and that is always a strong position to be in, but just knowing our goal or destination is not going to get us there. It is difficult to explain to you how to get to the center of Chicago, if I do not know where you are coming
from. If you begin in New York that trip would look much different than if you began in Los Angeles.
Action & Implementation:
Do you remember how afraid you were at your first day of school? The only way to get over that was to face the other kids who also were coming. After the first week, those fears were gone. School was not so hard. Well, anything we face in life is based on that same principal: Live Life with Courage. Take action and work through the fear.
Courage is being scared to death— and saddling up anyway. ~ John Wayne.
Assess & Examine:
Finally, take time to see where you are at with the action you have taken, if you are getting closer then continue on. If you are not getting to where you want to go you have two choices. One: whine and complain that things aren’t working. Two: Decide to make the changes necessary and start over. Acknowledge, Action, and A
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Vilma Blum is an ordinary woman who helps others move from being lost & ordinary to Extra-Ordinary in 90 Days...